Counseling for Teens and Men
I believe that you can become the person you were created to be. I offer tools, encouragement and compassion to help you get there.
For we are God's masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago. Ephisians 2:10
People are incredibly resilient. We develop coping methods to help us get through incredibly difficult situations. Those same difficult situations and coping methods can also become like a box slowly closing us in. Sometimes the process is noticeable other times it slowly grows in the background. Counseling can help you break free of depression, anxiety, behavior issues and addiction.
Why Men and Male Teens?
It's about pulling all of my resources together to address an epidemic.
I love all people and want to see everyone experience health, but I know God has called me to this particular population. Typically males have a hard time identifying, navigating and addressing emotions with healthy coping behaviors. As a society we don't encourage males to express their emotions, with the one exception, anger. Anger becomes the catch all emotion, anger also confuses and pushes others away. Emotionally clueless males will develop depression, anxiety or an addiction to help them cope. My counseling approach is tailor fit for guys to become the son, husband and father they've always wanted to be.
Men in the Church are being taken out by addiction, particularly sexual addiction. It often starts young and slowly grows, it stays hidden in marriages, all the while it's eating at the man's soul. It degrades the man, his wife, his family and his mission in life.
Here's why I see sex as a huge problem in the church:
- We live in a society that is sexually out of control
- We crave instant gratification
- Technology has given us quick access to billions of pornographic images and movies
- Sex is a relatively "shameful" or "taboo" subject, we don't readily talk about our sexual struggles
- Internet pornography is very easy to hide, "no one needs to know."
- Men aren't very good at acknowledging their emotions and having healthy tools to deal with them
- Unresolved pain/trauma that happened early in life
None of these problems are unique to the church, but guilt and shame keep it hidden while it does its damage. I've often heard men say, "I was living two different lives, I love God but I hate what I'm doing. I can't stop and I can't tell anyone about it. What would they think of me?"